Dr. Grisel Lopez-Escobar, PhD (in Counseling),
Licensed Mental Health Counselor Providing Virtual Therapy to Adult Clients
in the States of AK, AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, ID, IN, LA, MA, ME, NV, OR, SC, TX, UT, VT, WI & WY, USA
Specializing in Supporting Clients who are Newly Secular or Deconstructing from High Control Religions, Groups or Cults: Religious Trauma / Faith Crisis, Religious Deconstruction / Purity Culture / Religious Residue / Mixed-Faith Relationships / Secular Therapy
Conditional Love and Acceptance
Teaching that love or belonging depends on obeying religious rules
You were told your parents or a higher power would only love you if you followed every rule perfectly.
You felt rejected or invisible after expressing doubts about your beliefs.
Potential clinical implications (especially in high control settings)
Fear of abandonment may underlie personal relationships.
People-pleasing or perfectionist tendencies may develop.
Self-worth may become conditional and performance-based.