
Dr. Grisel Lopez-Escobar, PhD (Counseling)
Licensed Mental Health Counselor offering virtual therapy to adult clients in 19 U.S. states
Working with people who are questioning, deconstructing, or leaving high-control religions, groups, or cults
Fading
A gradual drifting away from religious beliefs or practices, often unnoticed at first. It’s not an abrupt rejection, but a slow detachment that can be emotional, spiritual, or behavioral.
You used to pray every morning and night, but now weeks go by without a single prayer.
You still go to church with your family, but you mostly sit in silence, feeling like an outsider.
You used to feel inspired by reading sacred texts, but now you skim them without focus.
Potential clinical implications (especially in high control settings)
Fading can cause tension with family or religious peers who notice your shift.
You might fear judgment, experience guilt, or feel pressured to "fake it," leading to emotional stress.
The loss of meaning or spiritual framework can trigger sadness, depression, or existential fear.